The Scarlet "W".

After a year my divorce was final I was now a free woman to walk the earth. I had recently attended my friends wedding and to my horror I found out I was the only single person there. Everywhere I turned I saw sneered faces of the female form of couples that were paired together at the ceremony. I didn't realize until later that I had walked into a shooting range of judgment. Single women all around the world have been getting a bad wrap since the dawn of time for just being alone. We wonder why this came to be? If you are not in a couple some how people believe you want to be. Which sparks a psycho paranoid feeling in certain women when in a relationship believe that everybody wants their mate.
Sometimes its a trust issue between two people from the result of being cheated on in a pervious or current relationship. When single words like "slut","shank" or "whore" are used to belittle and put us at bay from being noticed by anybody if given a chance. Being a threat can be taken in a whole new direction but can also be an ego boost for some. In order to live in this world with other non-single people the only way to survive is to grid your teeth and bear it. Never let them get you down and live your life the way you want to live it.

Being Reckless.

When ready to check out at my local H-E-B store I walk by the magazine rack and browse over the countless celebrity scandals. Almost all of them have Lindsey Lohan on the cover being drunk and reckless. You wonder "Does she do this everyday?" and "Why isn't she thinking". But then you have to realize that you have been reckless at one point in your life one way or another. Usually these events happen during nights of drinking and dancing with friends. You wake up the next morning to somebody you don't recall talking to the night before wondering what the hell were you thinking? Some people call this a one night stand others say you had "beer goggles".Welcome to being reckless 101 where Lindsey Lohan is your teacher and after that night you have earned your degree in being a train wreck. Some repeat until they have decided to go into rehab others "get real" and lay low until their next "moment". This does not only affect regular single people but also people that are newly broken-up or divorced. When under the influence you don't remember what went wrong only the strong loving feelings that were there before. Only to wake up from a dream (the next day)and feel bad or hurt from it not being "fixed" from your drunken night with your ex.
There is only one way to heal yourself and not let it eat you up. Move on and stop partying with your ex unless a good friend can prevent you from making a blunder the next morning. You're only human and we make mistakes only to learn and be better people.

The great oral debate:to blow or not to blow that is the question?

One fine autumn day a group of friends and I were heading towards Austin for a day of shopping and fun. When you are stuck in a car for an hour with five women the conversation always leads to sex and relationships. At that moment I had a made an interesting discovery one of my friends that was married had never given her husband oral sex. Could a relationship work without having to resort to cunnilligus? My motto is I give head to get head in order to be equal when it comes to sex but when my friend explained to me that her husband was fine with the fact that she didn't do it. He never pushed the idea or whined about it. In our sexual culture we have given it many nicknames from a "bj" to a "Lewinsky" but don't mention that one on tv without getting a lawsuit. Authors have put out books like "The Going Down Guide" by British sexperts Emily Dubberley and Al Needham which gives tips as well as pg-13 photos to guide you. Besides books you can rent a DVD or take a class on how to please your mate "down there". In theory if you do it or not there is always information to help either way.